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Humiliation. That word encapsulates the last few years of my life.
Just when I think I've learned all the lessons I need to be an expert, something else comes along, something just a shade more humiliating. I didn't realize humiliation came in so many colors, but it does, a veritable Pantone panorama.

Things become almost unbearably embarrassing, one shame builds on the last shame, a tower with a deep foundation. If it fell, I'd be buried under the rubble of 51 years of staggering embarrassments.

We have to make a choice to step away from humiliation. We have to choose to step forward and embrace humility.
Humility, humiliation, and human share a common Latin root, humus, ground, earth.
Make of that what you will.










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